Help My Cat Won’t Stay Still Long Enough For Me To Help Her! (Vet Answered)
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Veterinarian & Animal Behaviorist
With nearly two decades in veterinary medicine, Dr. Paola brings hands-on experience across multiple species. A graduate of the University of Guadalajara, she specializes in preventive care, animal welfare, and positive reinforcement training.
The Question
“My cat Lucy is an outside/inside cat. I found her outside a few years ago as a stray, and I’ve tried to domesticate her, but she won’t stay inside very long. She’s very affectionate and very loving, but then when I try to hold her, she won’t let me for very long. I’ve just discovered that she has an ear infection by going to a vet. I don’t know how I can help her with medication because she won’t allow me to hold her, and she gets upset and forces her way out of my arms. If I don’t take care of it, will it get worse, or will it go away by itself? I just don’t know how I could put medicine on her ear if I can’t hold her down long enough, and she’ll get upset with me and maybe even run off. I would appreciate your advice.” – Lorraine
Quick Info about Lucy
Hi Lorraine,
Thank you for sharing Lucy’s story. It sounds like she has come a long way since her days as a stray, and her affection toward you is a sign of the trust she has built. At the same time, cats with a semi-feral background often have handling limits, which makes medical care more challenging. Ear infections in cats rarely resolve on their own. In fact, without treatment, they tend to worsen, leading to chronic pain, persistent inflammation, or even deeper infections of the middle or inner ear.
Because Lucy resists being held for long, the safest option is to work with your veterinarian on a plan that suits her temperament. Some ear medications are easier to apply than others, and in certain cases, an injectable or long-lasting treatment given at the clinic can reduce the need for daily handling. Trying to restrain her forcefully at home may damage the bond you share and also risk injury to both of you. I strongly recommend speaking with your veterinarian again to explore alternatives that require less direct handling or to discuss safe ways of administering her treatment.
In the meantime, you can gently help by continuing to build her trust through calm interactions, feeding routines, and avoiding stressful attempts at restraint. With patience and veterinary guidance, you can protect her health while maintaining the loving relationship you have worked so hard to create. I hope this helps!
– Dr. Paola