Help! I Think My Cat is Depressed! (Vet Answered)
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Veterinarian & Animal Behaviorist
With nearly two decades in veterinary medicine, Dr. Paola brings hands-on experience across multiple species. A graduate of the University of Guadalajara, she specializes in preventive care, animal welfare, and positive reinforcement training.
The Question
“My older cat died and my other cat Bootsie who was extremely fond of him is depressed. I have tried play, putting together a new scratching post for her, and holding her, but nothing seems to be working, possibly because she senses i am missing him as well. Do you have any suggestions? I would really appreciate any you would have!” – Joey
Quick Info about Bootsie
Dear Joey,
I am very sorry for your loss, and what you are seeing in Bootsie is a genuine and well-recognized response to losing a bonded companion. Some cats do form strong social attachments, and when one cat disappears from their daily life, the remaining cat can show signs such as withdrawal, reduced interest in play, changes in sleep patterns, or eating less. This is not simply because she senses your sadness, although cats are sensitive to changes in routine and household mood. It is more about the sudden absence of a familiar presence, shared interactions, and predictable daily rhythms that helped her feel secure.
During this period, it is common for cats to seem uninterested in toys or new enrichment, because their stress level is higher and novelty can feel like too much rather than comforting. What tends to help most is consistency and calm. Keeping feeding times, lighting, and daily routines steady gives her nervous system something reliable to settle around. Offering companionship without pressure, sitting quietly nearby, and letting her choose contact is often more soothing than holding her or encouraging activity before she is ready. Familiar scents can also be reassuring, so keeping items that still smell like her companion, if available, may help soften the transition.
If this low mood continues for several weeks, or if you notice concerning changes such as reduced appetite or weight loss, a veterinary visit is important. Stress-related behavioral changes can sometimes overlap with medical issues in cats, especially as they age. With time, patience, and a predictable environment, most cats gradually adapt to the loss, even though the process can be slow and uneven. You are already doing many of the right things by being attentive and compassionate during a difficult adjustment for both of you. My sincere condolences, and I wish you strength and peace during this difficult time.
Best wishes